Some bloggers have a long term plan for what they are going to write. They think about the various things they want to say, make schedules, lists. Think things over and make plans. Do research of that’s necessary. Have every note necessary on hand before they begin to write. I’m not that organized. I did have an idea about what I was going to say today though. I had even begun writing, but then I was forced to rethink the day.
When you’re writing to heal you must be prepared to change your subject if something happens. If something comes up that needs to be dealt with urgently. That’s okay. That’s why we’re writing to begin with. No matter how many deeply rooted, old problems you need to heal if they’ve been troubling you for a while they can wait a little bit longer. It’s better to deal with problems as quickly as possible or they could start growing into bigger problems. Think of the healing as rebuilding your house. If there was a fire it would be better to put it out as soon as possible before it destroys everything. When the fire is out you can go back to the rebuilding. When the immediate issues are dealt with the old problems will still be there.
When you’re blogging to heal these emergencies could mean that you’ll have to scrap everything you’ve written for a post and replace it with something else. And you can’t use what is already done another day because the thousand words a day challenge requires you to write one thousand new words every day. No recycling allowed. Well, I guess you can use it as notes for another day. However, the healing has to be done. Ot there must at least be an attempt at trying.
Earlier today I was getting my writing done so I could edit later, this evening. Trying to keep a writing/editing schedule like that is kind of in keeping with the making of plans. And with working strategically towards the goal of publishing something that isn’t too terrible. I had a thousand words already written, but then something happened that made me abandon my previous ideas and start over.
Since I’m still not an expert at sleeping and because so many of my friends still live in that other time zone I tend to stay up very late. Staying up late does, for some weird reason, make me very tired so after I finished a quick draft this morning, I went back to sleep. When I woke up from my nap I had received a message from a very close friend of mine who was very upset for many different reasons. This made me think about what really is important and what isn't. When it comes to people you care about you have to be there, you can't be selfish. My "I'm doing this for me" attitude might be helpful when I'm dealing with my insecurities about this blog, but it's got no place in my real life.
Even though some selfishness can be beneficial for us, it’s not always a good thing. It can be a good thing for those situations where caring too much about other people and their opinions makes you question yourself and what you do. We can never please everyone and by trying we only set ourselves up for failure. Taking in every negative opinion, trying to make the changes so everyone is happy only leads to one truth. Nothing is ever good enough. Too much of this and you’ll start questioning yourself and your capabilities. Maybe you begin to question what you’re doing and why you’re doing it at all. Maybe you give up just when thing were about to change. In these situations a little bit of selfishness can help. I know it has worked for me the few times I’ve actually said I don’t care what people think about me, I am doing this for me.
Some creative selfishness can necessary to be able to achieve anything at all. That doesn’t mean that we can completely ignore other people or that being selfish always can be justified. The sad truth is that even though a lot of people have the problem that they care too much about what other people think too many people don’t seem to care at all. It is easier to judge other people than to ask how they’re doing or if they need help. I have mentioned in passing before that I have a lot of pain that leaves me very handicapped. There’s way too many things I just can’t do. My handicap isn’t visible, but the things I’m unable to do can be very visible, for example cutting the grass or shoveling snow depending on season. Even though all my neighbors should know about my pain they look accusingly at me when I can’t keep up with their standards. Judging is easier than helping.
That’s not the worst kind of selfishness though. When strangers, neighbors, people that you come across by chance are being selfish. But what if these people who judge you and only see your faults are people close to you? What if the people who don’t ask how you are doing is someone you care about? Someone you thought cared about you. What if that person who wonät ask if you need help is someone you love? Someone you thought loved you.
There are times when we need to stop being selfish. When we simply have to be there for someone who is having a hard time. Sometimes we have to forget about ourselves and our own problems for awhile. Whatever issues we’re dealing with they will still be there to worry about another day, but the people you care about and love might not. Some Twitter wisdom said that every time you aren’t there for your loved ones, every time they learn a little bit more to manage without you. Eventually you won’t be needed anymore.
With that my random unsorted thoughts for today have brought me past my number
I still care what you think and I wish you a wonderful day!!!
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